Where has 2016 gone? My mother told me the older I got, the faster it all went, and she was right! As for myself, I am grateful for my many blessings and making it through this year without any calamities! We did have two additions to our family and they are furry and their names are Buddy and Dolly and they have brought such joy into our lives.
At this time of year, I think most of us tally up what the year gave us and what the year took from us. And, the older you become, the more likely you are to lose family members and other people you have loved and admired sometimes for your whole life. There is a beginning, middle and end to all life and most of us know that the dash in between our birth and deaths is what we call life.
It’s all the things that happen between those dates that make up our lives. My father told my husband and I when we got married, that if we went all year long, paid all our bills, stayed healthy, had a few good times and had fifteen dollars left over, that we should consider ourselves successful. It doesn’t sound too ambitious, but it isn’t a bad scenario either. Another bit of advice he gave to us was to buy and hold U.S. Savings Bonds. It is a painless way to save because you don’t see the money grow, but it does over time.
Losing family and friends is a sad thing, but your memories and photographs are what sustain you after a loss. Laughing and crying and talking about loved ones is what help you navigate your grief which never goes away. You just look at it differently and knowing that we all land up in the same place together is a comfort.
I believe that, “Less is more” and I have been “thinning out” for years. We are all care takers and its all temporary anyway. I believe that if you are not using something and don’t need it, you should pass it on to the people who have admired it over time. You get to see the joy of someone receiving something you loved, and no one can contest that gift because it was done in your lifetime, not after your death.
At this time of year, I am taking time to count my many blessings. They are; my entire family, my friends, my class mates, my co-workers throughout my career, but most of all, my husband Sig who passed away seven years ago. I’m one of the lucky ones because I married my best friend, my lover, my cheerleader, my critic and the most fantastic and affectionate person I could have ever hoped for. He said so many wonderful things to me before he died and luckily I wrote down the words he gave me. If I had not done that, the love arrows he sent my way would have evaporated from my memory. They are and will forever comfort me in my winter.
Best wishes to all who read these words and Happy New Year and may all your dreams come true. Mine did!