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Love Arrows or Damage Daggers

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Heather Kobler

I have always told my children and friends this, “What comes out your mouth is how you feel about yourself”.  If you can wrap your mind around this concept, you will think before you speak and “damage control”, will never be needed.  Once it comes out your mouth, its official and you can’t take it back.

love arrows or damage daggers?

I have always been an incurable romantic.  I want everyone to be madly and passionately in love every day of their lives.  It’s not a bad philosophy and if you make a conscious effort to think this way, your efforts will be rewarded tenfold.

Some actions we take have a way of boomeranging back on us.  That could be in a good way or a bad way.  Fortunately for me, I love people and always seem to find the best in others.  And, I also give a wide birth to negative people.  They are like vampires and they have a tendency to drain your energy away.

Men and women need to have something left over at the end of their day to share with spouses and children.  Giving time to your family is one of the best investments you’ll ever make.  Giving and showing love and affection to our mates and children is the gift that keeps on giving.  And sitting all together at your table for any meal without distractions, (television or cell phones) is soul food for the entire family.

Our children are watching us all the time.  They are learning from us and the more we realize this, the better off we all are.  Life is what we all make it.  We live on this beautiful planet together and not being taught to be prejudice towards others is the biggest blessing you can give.  Besides, “Prejudice is someone else’s leftover garbage anyway”.

Without prejudice, the slate is completely clean and we relate to others in the best possible way.  I grew up in Chicago in the ghetto and I consider this fact to be one of my greatest blessings.  I went to school with every ethnic and religious group you can name.  I watched as immigrants came from all over the world.  Everyone seemed too thrive in this new environment and many began to start their own businesses.  I remember their names and faces with great fondness after many years.

Attitude is altitude and the better your attitude, the richer your life becomes.  And, this does not mean money.  I’ll take happiness every day of the week over money or any inanimate object you can name.  The only things you get to keep are the things you give away.  Like; affection, humor, intellect, understanding, empathy, compassion, support, forgiveness, understanding and the list goes on and on.

If a genie in a bottle gave me three wishes I would ask for, “Health, health, and health”.  The rest I can get all by myself.

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